TW Warning: These stories contain detailed descriptions of abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, physical violence and other forms of harassment and discrimination which may be triggering.
I always wanted children, a happy home, with maybe two or more children. When I got married, it was an arranged marriage. I met him before we got married, but I didn’t know him well. My family made the choice because they said he “came from a good family”. After our first child, he didn’t want to have anymore. He told me about this procedure I could get to stop me from having children. I told him I didn’t want to. He became angry, and threatened me, he said if I didn’t get it done, he would divorce me. I tried speaking to my family, but they insisted I had to stay in the marriage and listen to my husband. They told me if I left, I would be on my own. They were worried that if I sought a divorce, it would bring them shame, and embarrass them in front of his family and the community. I depended on my husband financially and without my family’s support... I had no choice. I remember the day the procedure was done, I didn’t even understand what was happening or what they were doing. It was the saddest day of my life. I haven’t been the same since.
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